“A positive attitude is something everyone can work on, and everyone can learn how to employ it.” – Joan Lunden
In March, I lost my job on the very day that my Mom’s health took a turn for the worse. She passed away two weeks later. A friend asked why I’m not bitter about this. Why aren’t I feeling sorry for myself?
The truth is that I did have moments when I felt sorry for myself. I had been very dedicated to my job at a nonprofit organization. Although I worked more than 30 hours a week, management decided that my position needed to be full-time. I was unable to work more hours, and I was terminated. After my Mom died, I was in shock for a couple months. Two big life changes had occurred, and I had difficulty making the transition.
However, I see God’s hand at work in what happened. Losing my job enabled me to be with my Mom for her last 15 days at the hospital and hospice. This was a gift to both of us. She could not breathe well, and she was scared. It was comforting for her to have a family member with her, and being with her throughout her illness helped me talk to the doctors knowledgably and to honor her wishes about her care.
The way things happened also enabled me to leave my job with no regrets. If I were still employed, I would have been terribly conflicted about leaving work to care for my Mom. I could not have stayed most nights with her as I did. Knowing that I was able to be there for my Mom made me see that God’s timing is perfect.
I had choices in how to view my two life changes:
- “Poor me, I got terminated” versus “Lucky me, I had the opportunity to share my Mom’s dying moments. And now I have the time to explore my dream job of being a writer.”
- “My Mom passed away. That’s heartbreaking and unfair.” versus “I am sad but it was her time, she was ready, and she was released from her pain.”
By looking at these situations through the eyes of faith and gratitude, I see that God was looking out for me.
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